Choosing a Couples Relationship Counsellor
When choosing a couples counsellor it’s important to make sure they are registered with governing associations like the Psychotherapists And Counsellors Federation of Australia (PACFA).
It is important the counsellor has relationship counselling training & supervision. Couples relationship counselling is different to individual counselling and requires expert skills. Always ask if your counsellor is trained in couples counselling or relationship counselling.
Jonathan Swan at Gold Coast Couples Counselling is registered with PACFA (reg number 24252)
Jonathan has completed Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy training to the highest level within Australia and is working towards his international certification under the supervision of Dr Jenny Fitzgerald from The Australian Centre for Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is recognised by the New York Times as a relationship therapy with higher than 75% success rate.
We all deserve a loving relationship
A loving healthy relationship leads to positive feelings of emotional, social and physical well-being for everyone
Gold Coast Couples Relationship Counselling provides professional relationship counselling, marriage counselling and premarital counselling for individuals and couples as well as those in extended families.
Distressed partners in relationship, individuals, or those who just want to improve their relationship are supported by Gold Coast Couples Counselling.
Gold Coast Couples Relationship Counselling practices Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT). EFCT is an evidenced-based therapy and has been noted by the New York Times as the couple therapy with higher than 75% success rate.
The therapy practiced by Gold Coast Couples Relationship Counselling focuses on the emotional connection of relationship by:
- De-escalating conflict
- Creating a safe emotional connection between partners
- Strengthening bonds between partners
If any of the following has happened in your relationship then get in touch with Gold Coast Couples Relationship Counselling for expert professional help:
Call on 0410 889 332 or Contact for more details or to book in for a Couples Relationship or Marriage Counselling session on the Gold Coast.
Gold Coast Couples Relationship Counselling supports the claim made by Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy that the fundamental problem in relationship breakdown is a lack of effective communication of core emotional needs, for example:
When we don’t receive these core needs from our partner we may experience:
As a result, we end up feeling:
Which in turns leads us to:
- Blame and attack our partner or
- Turn away and ignore them
Relationships and marriages with poor expression of core emotional needs end up in negative dysfunctional relationship patterns. For example, you end up blaming each other for not getting your needs met, rather than talk to each other about what’s really going on for you, what’s underneath your blame and anger.
Ineffective communication leads to stress and to the breakdown of trust and safety in a relationship.
Gold Coast Couples Relationship Counselling’s Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy approach supports both of you to express core emotional needs in a safe, supporting and non-judgmental environment where the aim is for you both to feel heard.
Expression of core emotional needs leads to feelings of togetherness, safety and trust
We often bring styles of relating learnt from childhood and former relationships with us into our current relationship. Maybe we’ve learnt to withdraw and stonewall to get a reaction in previous relationships. Perhaps we lash out and fight because we are fearful about being hurt again. Sometimes we’ve just become numb, unable to react or act at all. We react to our partners rather than respond. These reactive negative dysfunctional patterns become entrenched over time and become hard to break. Relationship counselling and therapy practiced by Gold Coast Couples Relationship Counselling is very effective in resetting these negative patterns into more positive loving healthy patterns of behaviour.
At the core of our ineffective communication and problematic patterns of relating usually lies deep hurt and fear. We freeze, withdraw or act out in order to protect ourselves from further hurt. We become fearful of our partner because they are the one who is hurting us or who has the potential to hurt us. Our partner who we love becomes our greatest threat in that moment.
Gold Coast Couples Relationship Counselling provides relationship and marriage counselling and therapy that allows for a safe, supportive, non-judgmental and unbiased place to allow both of you to get your relationship back to where it was. A place where love and care is expressed in a way that supports each others core emotional needs.
Understanding and communication are the keys to successful relating and healing from relationship breakdown
Gold Coast Couples Relationship Counselling offers relationship and marriage counselling and therapy that supports you both to:
- Understand each other better and discover more fruitful and effective ways to express feelings
- Communicate better your needs and wants resulting in a more satisfying relationship where your emotional, social and physical well-being are met
The counselling approach taken by Gold Coast Couples Relationship Counselling helps you both to become more sexually intimate again. Being in relationship means that we often lose sight of ourselves and the other, we become merged together. While this is initially exciting, losing awareness of who you are in relationship undermines your sense of self and it undermines the difference that the other person initially brought into the relationship. You become familiar and while comforting, it can lead to loss of excitement in the other person and thereby loss of sexual intimacy and enjoyment. By re-becoming yourself while remaining in relationship, you allow the other to do the same. In doing so excitement re-enters the relationship leading to a more sustainable, intimate and long-term relationship.
Call on 0410 889 332 or Contact for more details or to book in for a Couples Relationship or Marriage Counselling & Therapy session on the Gold Coast.
Gold Coast Couples Relationship Counselling is experienced with and supports LGBTQ and BDSM communities. We also work with non-traditional forms of relationship, ie non-monogamous, open-relationships and polyamory.